Could it possibly be as easy as that? Yup! I believe that change is about Mindshifts. What are mind shifts? Changes in the way you view the world. Your paradigm. How the world makes sense to you and how you are with yourself in it. No matter what other people do or say or act like. Just you in all of your true visionary beauty, to be able to have a clear vision, "clairvoyance", about what it is that you say that you want, and thereby making it happen.
This is how powerful you really are. Without the conditioning, the habits, the ways you were told that reality is from parents or your early environment. How good is that?
As a Life Coach, I generally start a coaching program with my clients by asking the question, "What is the perfect vision you have for your business/life?" I let them create a picture about what their perfect day would look like, how they would be spending their time, and most importantly how they would be feeling. We build together an image and some enthusiasm for the big picture, and then start to fill in the details.
But then the inevitable question must come up, and that is, "Why don't you already have that now?" What is in the way of that happening for you now? And this is where people suddenly become much more introspective. It is a good question, isn't it? Why are we not already living exactly the way we envision for ourselves?
The short answer is because we don't believe that we can. We are letting things fall through the cracks. And it gets worse; we self-sabotage, procrastinate, even get sick right when the breakthrough is starting to take place. We get afraid and anxious because there is a part of our conditioning that feels threatened that the possibility CAN'T take place. The truth is, we have to take a leap of faith. We have to trust ourselves in all our unique genius and take a chance on ourselves that what we imagine COULD come to be.
I am right there with you on this one. It has taken me years, a lifetime, really, to believe that what I am saying is the truth. We are in our own way 100% of the time, because it just doesn't feel normal to us! That's right, the normality of life takes a big hold on our psyches, and the ego mind literally thinks we are in extreme danger if we are out of the normal comfort zone of our history. This makes for a bunch of chickens-as-humans. Fear-busting aside, we simply don't like change of any kind.
So if you know theoretically that it would be great for your visibility to start making some speaking inquiries, that bigger, darker, more unconscious side of you says "No way I'm doing that!" Your excuse might be that you don't feel quite ready yet (that is my go-to excuse...) or that you have to get another credential first, or that you are having a bad hair day. Anything but courageously putting yourself out there to be actually seen and heard.
So what is the answer? What to do? There are a lot of things to do. You have to systematically unwrap each of the elements one at a time, to uncover the reasons why you are reticent to be seen and heard in a bigger way, and then to practice something that feels way out of your comfort zone; that literally feels "wrong" to your complacent mind.
I always hated public speaking. I even got nervous going around a room and sharing names when I was in a big group of people. My heart would start to beat and I was terribly afraid I was going to forget what I was going to say, or would sound stupid. My ego needed me to look good! Now I am a speaking and confidence coach! I even wrote a book about how to get comfortable an confident and PRESENT/ embodied so that you can feel more relaxed on stage. (It is called Step Up and SHINE!, which can be found at Amazon.com).
For our purposes today, i just want to open the conversation and invite you to think bigger about what your potential is for growing your business by becoming more visible. That could be leading a workshop, doing an Introductory talk at a local Meet Up, join a book club, or anything that will start to get you out more and let you give voice to your own thoughts and opinions about a subject. As you gain familiarity and comfort in speaking to a small and intimate group, who knows, you might be ready to get on a bigger stage with your special wisdom and start getting momentum behind your offerings. Let's create a doable vision together, for what and who you might become in the future! Make that future happen now...