(I even participated in Cyber Monday today...go to my Facebook page Step Up and SHINE for a 20% discount of my book on Amazon!!).
I wish for you the best of the holiday season, and my advise for you my peeps, is to use your time well; be intentional about your own time and energy. Like the poem above, give your energy to those who bring peace, and not so much to the ones who try to steal it all away.
Sounds a little harsh, I know, but I for one, had to spend some real "letting go" time today to release the drama/trauma of other people in my life, who are only trying their best to get by, but instinctively create chaos in everyone around them in order to hold their world together. That takes time and awareness, and the intention to clear the energy. And it takes the intentionality to move through the tangled energies to find the still center.
Sensitivity to other people's energy is a real thing. Some of us are "highly sensitive" beings, which is actually a gift and not a curse. But it comes with a cost. If you are one who is easily affected by especially negative energy then there is good news; you can skillfully navigate the way you feel, and create a way through the power it has over you. How?
Start to become more aware that you are being affected and don't react right away. Reaction to stimulus is hard-wired into our nervous systems. It is connected to the "flight or fight" response, which is a way our bodies quickly respond to danger. When stimulated, the heart rate and respiration rate increases, and processes such as digestion are reduced so that we can flee or fight in a situation of extreme danger. In this day, the "danger" is still affecting our bodies, but it is called STRESS.
When the danger goes away, the autonomic nervous system comes back into equilibrium, which then allows the normal activities come back. The truth is we have a certain amount of control over these automatic responses to stress, and we can cultivate more responsiveness consciously if we can become aware that it is happening.
I recommend that you put in place some regular practices to manage stress that will naturally come up when interacting with family, and going about the many necessary activities of preparing for your holidays. These could be as simple as creating a regular ritual of breathing and meditation, learning a "clearing" ritual for releasing unwanted emotional garbage that accumulates in your energy field, and even doing something as simple as taking a walk or writing in a journal, so that when stressful or emotional situations emerge, you have an established tool for taking care of yourself.
Be kind and patient as you put these processes in place. Don't expect to be the "blissful angel of peace" in all situations, but do start giving time and love to cultivating these new conditions.
Sometimes it is just the acknowledgment that stress and tension are beginning to emerge that gives you
the impetus to do this work.
On top of that, getting enough sleep, saying "no" to that second helping of dessert, and drinking ample amounts of water, can do wonders in keeping healthy over the next month.
One ritual I love to do around this time of year, is list my top 10 intentions for the coming year. Otherwise known as "New Year's Resolutions" this is a more soft edge approach to creating the life that you truly desire by intending a positive outcome for your desires and dreams.
Here's to you having a splendid holiday experience, one that can fill your coffers for the months to come.